Does The Golden Rule Apply To Marriage? - Continued
Published: October 10, 2008
Ultimately, through sexual intimacy - emotionally and physically connecting - God calls us to be vulnerable and to serve each other. He calls on men to connect emotionally with their wives in order to have their physical needs met; he calls on women to connect physically with their husbands in order to have their emotional needs met. It involves tension, to be sure. But it's also exciting!
The exciting reality about sexual intimacy is that God made us different to spice things up! And ultimately, those differences teach us about serving the other person. When we give our spouses what they need - not what we think they want or need - then we fulfill God's design for sexual intimacy. And the reward is that together we experience true intimacy.
What we have to realize is that our different ways of approaching sexual intimacy are okay - and normal - because God made us different... on purpose. And that's a good thing. We waste so much time and energy trying to shape our spouses into sexual clones of ourselves. Then we wonder why we're frustrated and disappointed with our sex lives! So rather than growing frustrated and upset, taking it out on each other, walking away, and pouting, take those opportunities to accept that our approaches to intimacy are going to be different.
The reality is that we often want the same things. Our deepest desire, whether we're male or female, is ultimately to become one. He wants intercourse; she wants intercourse. He may want physical intercourse more than she does, and she may want emotional intercourse more than he does, but when a couple can meld physical and emotional intercourse, they will find the pathway to greater intimacy.
Portions of this article were adapted from "The 5 Sex Needs of Men and Women," by Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg. To find our more about marriage coaches Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg, log onto www.drgaryandbarb.com.
Copyright © 2008 Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg. All rights reserved.
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Does The Golden Rule Apply To Marriage?
Published: October 10, 2008
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